when baby is crying

  • sing a song
  • give them a baby massage
  • Put baby in stroller or in carrier and go for a walk to change the surroundings


  • Have lots of skin-to-skin contact - touch and smell are two of the most important senses in the bonding process
  • Take every chance you can to smile, talk, sing, cuddle and play with your baby
  • Learn some massage techniques. This could also come in handy when you're trying to calm a crying baby
  • Make eye contact - this could also help you pick up on your baby's mood.


Remember, if you are stressed or overwhelmed, take a break, don't shake. Put the baby or toddler in a safe place (high chair, crib, stroller or playpen)

Tantrums: how to cope

As babies develop into toddlers, they find new ways to test boundaries and express themselves. So when your toddler gets upset, you might find they scream, cry or even kick, hit or bite.

The first time this happens can be upsetting, and if it happens in public it can be embarrassing. 

If you can't find an immediate reason (they're hungry, tired or need a little tender loving care), there are things you can try to calm your toddler.

Things to try

    • create a distraction using something like a book
    • draw their attention to something else happening nearby
    • if they're angry, tell them you know how they feel

Things to avoid

    • if they're asking for something and you've said no, don't give in
    • don't bribe them with sweets

If you're feeling overwhelmed, make sure you take a break - perhaps you could call a friend. You might find it easier to manage when you've had a second to think for yourself. 

Stress: know the signs

Sometimes stress can become too hard to handle. But when you're looking after a baby or toddler, it's more important than ever that you can recognise when you need to take action to relieve your stress.

Have a few relaxation techniques you can call on to make sure that child's safety is your number one priority.